3. Strength: When I was young, I didn’t fully understand, but I still knew my mom was amazing. She could move the washing machine on her own, she could hoist around pots and pans in the kitchen like no other. As I’ve grown up, I realized that she had much more than just physical strength. When she was the age I am now, she already had given birth to me and had her second child on the way. She more than managed to keep me out of trouble (mostly), work a full-time job starting a new company, cook and clean to keep the house together, every day for at least two straight years of her life. She had and still has an engine that only has one gear: INTENSE. That is a strength I know I have in me as well, passed on simply by watching her day in and day out. Rarely complaining, she was and is the essence of a strong, independent woman as I think of it.
2. Respect: Perhaps my mom hasn’t fully given me her respect since I am still her baby girl. But what I mean is that she has taught me the value of respect in my life. Who deserves your respect and how to earn the respect of others. When to respect others’ space and needs, and how that respect bridges into a long-lasting, unbreakable connection. A respect that is earned in the right way. Not through intimidation. Not through trickery. And not by stepping on others along the way to your own success. But through actions guided by your principles. In a nutshell: As long as your principles are good and pure, you have a strong heart and will, and you follow through on your actions with them guiding you, you can earn people’s trust and respect. There are many other complexities that factor into respect, but maybe for another post.
1. Love: I think you all knew this one was coming. It is Mother’s Day after all, and while we should all appreciate our mothers (and fathers) every day, it is hard to reflect on these things constantly and still have them carry the same weight every time. So we take these somewhat arbitrarily made-up holidays to take that moment and reflect. But yes, back to love. It’s of course an unconditional love that mothers give to their children. That, I am blessed enough to say, my mother has given me in spades. But she has also given me tough love, pushing me to constantly be better, to never be complacent, to believe I can do and be better than I am. She loves who I am today, and she will love who I become 1, 2…5…years from now. She has the confidence that I have the strength to take her scoldings and criticisms, yet she respects that I must find my own way as well and become the person I was meant to be. Whoever that turns out to be, with and without her direct influence at certain points, she will always love me. And I will always love her.
For you Mommy. Love you